Clear answers about your child’s online life.
Safer Not Scared is a free guide for parents and anyone who looks after kids: the apps and games they use, the signs of harm, and what to do next. Written by parents and checked against official sources.
New to Safer Not Scared?
The name is the idea: calm, practical steps instead of fear.
- Who it’s for
- Parents, grandparents, teachers, coaches, and anyone who looks after kids.
- What’s here
- Guides to the apps, games and AI kids use, the warning signs of abuse, your state’s laws, and free tools and printables.
- What it costs
- Nothing. Every guide and tool is free, with no account. Memberships are optional and help keep it running.
- Who makes it
- Two parents raising four kids, who date every guide and check it against official sources. Who we are
Check before you say yes
Free checks that read official records: the registry for your area, and the games your child plays.
- Sex offender registry near you
Search your state’s official registry by address, often on a map.
- Check a Roblox game
Roblox’s own maturity rating, who made it, and how many people play.
- Check a Roblox account
When a new friend’s account was made, and the names it has used.
Apps, games and devices A–Z
Each guide covers what it is, the risks, the settings that matter, and what to do if something happens.
- AI chatbots and companion apps
What they are, what to set, and how to talk about them.
Verified September 5, 2026 - Android and Family Link
Review apps and set daily limits for a supervised Google account.
Checked October 3, 2026
- Discord
Private servers anyone can create in thirty seconds. The risk is which servers your child is in.
Verified September 5, 2026 · Step-by-step setup
- First phone and social accounts
A readiness checklist and a printable family agreement.
- Fortnite
Open voice chat, friend requests, and a real-money currency.
Verified September 5, 2026 · Step-by-step setup
- iPhone and iPad
Set up Screen Time, app permissions, and a family routine.
Checked October 3, 2026
- Roblox
The age check, the three settings that matter most, and what no setting can fix.
Verified September 5, 2026 · Step-by-step setup
- Snapchat
Messages disappear by default and location is shared on a map.
Verified September 5, 2026 · Step-by-step setup
- YouTube
Choose a supervised experience and check the account used to watch.
Checked October 3, 2026
- All setup guides
Step-by-step settings for seven apps and devices.
AI, without the panic
The more comfortable you are with AI, the easier it is to help your kids use it well. Start with twenty minutes on your own. Everything on AI for families
- Understand it
What a chatbot is actually doing, in about ten minutes.
- Try it yourself
Eight small exercises on your own account.
- Bring it home
What to try at your child’s age, and five rules for every age.
Signs of harm
How children tell, what to notice, and what to do next, explained plainly for parents and the adults around children.
The law in your state
Child-abuse reporting and school bullying laws for all 50 states, with official sources checked October 3, 2026.
Educational summaries, not legal advice. Qualified legal review is pending.
Tools you can use tonight
Free, with no account needed.
Learn at your pace
Eight short reading lessons, from the first family conversation to a written family plan.
Written by parents
We’re a husband-and-wife team raising four children. One of us works as a Director of AI. Safer Not Scared grew out of a question we kept coming back to: how can we help families understand the risks their children face, and feel ready to respond?
How this information is checked
- Dated
- Every platform guide shows when it was verified and when it is due for review, every 90 days.
- Sourced
- Settings follow each company’s official instructions. Law summaries link to the statute or agency.
- Honest
- Guides say what settings cannot do, not only what they can.
- Corrected
- See something out of date? Read how we check and correct.